How I become a Single Mom. Embracing my journey to solo parenthood.

Life’s detours often turn out to be life’s most beautiful moments. So let me share how my journey to single parenthood started.

My pregnancy may have been a bit of a surprise, unexpected, and something that happened faster than I thought. Something I wasn’t sure if I was ready for but what’s not a surprise is how much I wanted my daughter, Zoe. I only knew about my pregnancy a few days before my birthday and from that moment I knew I need to go through this journey alone. But being the only person responsible for my daughter’s health and wellbeing is not exactly how I had imagined my life panning out. So being a "Solo Mom" is my choice and one of the best choices I've made. I chose this path, and I know I’m rocking it. Here are my 5 top reasons why I love being a solo mom. 

story of a single mom in the Philippines

Being a parent is a lifelong commitment. It’s not like training for a marathon, where you train hard for months and months, then do the race and say “wow, that was hard.” I am a SOLO parent all day, 24/7 every day. I have been for the last three years, and I will be for the foreseeable future.

Is solo parenting hard?

Yes, it can be tough and hard doing everything alone. But every time I am having a tough time, I would ask myself,  "will it be any easier if there was someone else here alongside me?" Because if yes, that would mean having another relationship to maintain and someone else’s opinions and feelings to take into account.

I chose to raise my daughter alone and we’re happy and complete. And as much as I wanted to share about how and why I chose this path of solo parenthood, maybe in time but not at the moment as I chose to completely close that chapter of my life.

Just like anything else in life, there are positives and negatives. I really believe that life is what you make it, and going around saying that life as a solo parent is hard can only serve to make my life seems hard to myself and to others. So every day, I choose to look at my life positively as it makes everything so much easier!

Sure, my life right now may be filled with all-night nursing sessions vs all-night parties. But I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Cliché as it may sound. But I can’t imagine life without my Zoe now. I may have traded in the ‘freedom’ of my twenties for the joys of motherhood but this path is a good one. And not just good. It’s pretty amazing, actually. And I am loving every bit of it. See a glimpse of our day.

The love I have for Zoe is deep, raw, and beyond anything else. Motherhood is one of life’s greatest adventures, at any age. And I don’t feel like I'm missing out on anything. Truth be told, there will always be challenges and amazing moments at any age of life, whether you’re a mother or not. Because no one’s life is perfect. And everyone’s paths have zigzags and roadblocks. What matters is how we embrace the journey and how we create the life we always wanted.

So to my fellow moms, especially solo moms and young moms, just believe in yourself, trust the process and enjoy the journey.

If you need a friend, I can be one because I see you, I was you. 

And I’m here to tell you that we can do this! 

Life is tough but we’re tougher!

Let's do this beautiful journey of motherhood together.

story of a single mom in the Philippines

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story of a single mom in the Philippines.
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